The BDSM Story

Part 1

What It Is

BDSM is an erotic preference and a form of personal relationship involving the consensual use of restraint, intense sensory stimulation, and fantasy power role play.

The acronym BDSM combines bondage and discipline (B&D or B/D), dominance and submission (D&S or D/s), and sadism and masochism (S&M or S/M).

Activities and relationships within a BDSM context are characterized by the participants usually taking on complementary, but unequal roles, thus the idea of consent of both the partners becomes essential.

There are three rolls in the BDSM relationship, the controller called the top or dom, those who are the participant called the bottoms or subs; and there are those who transverse between the two rolls, and they are called switches.





All three rolls are important to this diverse relationship.  The first is to ensure consent related to BDSM activity, pre-play negotiations are commonplace, especially among partners who do not know each other very well must be established. These negotiations concern the interests and fantasies of each partner and establish a framework.

Safety is one of the most important aspects you and your partner have to remember.  There has to be a trust, communication and respect between you and your partner.  Everyone should know what is on and off limits.  Like everyone out there, people have different thresholds or limits what they desire.

In the next week I will discuss different aspects of this type of relationship.  Hope to see you come back and enjoy stories and information.