VACATION AT THE EROTIC HISTORY MUSEUM

I just got back from a recent vacation trip to Vegas.  It was nice and relaxing. hot as hell, but nice none the less. Most vacations I go on, I tend to take a day or so to get away from the vacation spots (traps) and seek out the realness of the city I am visiting; this time was no exception, as the wife and I ventured out to the Erotic History Museum (EHM). 

According to their home page (www.eroticheritagemuseumlasvegas.com/‎) the EHM "… houses more than 17,000 square feet of permanent and featured exhibits designed to preserve wonders of the erotic imagination as depicted through the artistic expression of acts of sex and love. It is dedicated to the belief that sexual pleasure and fun are natural aspects of the human experience, that such pleasure must be made available to all, and that our individual sexuality belongs to each of us."  I have to say, it lived up to it’s mission statement as it presents a self-guided tour of sexuality, and you can see how views of sex and sexuality has evolved over the years.  This was the second time I have been there; I found myself half way through (both times) I found myself realize, even though as times change fixation of sex and sexuality has been a dominant focus of all cultures.  There appears people from any time period always wanted to project their sexual vitality (stone walls to statues to literary works, to publications to photographs to movies and to now the internet).  I wonder what the next “BIG"  thing (no pun intended) will be.

I realized with every generational society we as a people have evolved gained knowledge and found creative ways to increase or maximize the pleases which come from sex and sexuality.  I saw the use of “deflowering" devices of Europe and Japan, make way to instruments like dildos, Sybian and electric stimulation toys.  I also took note that  some historic torture items like whips, floggers, paddles and more are still used today in.  That today we have owned the instruments of torture to provide ourselves pleasure.

I do suggest the next time you are in Vegas, take the trip off the strip, away from the over priced drinks, one armed bandits and drive/taxi it to: 3275 Industrial Road, Las Vegas, NV 89109 pay the door donation (it is TAX DELECTABLE) and see this incredible museum.  It will educate. stimulate and make you think; all at the same time.

My View of Sex Posi+ive

For the past few months it seems the term Sex-Positive (Sex+) has been used by a large many different groups of people to mean many different thing. It wasn't until today what I was informed for an article written by a Cliff Pervocracy ([http://pervocracy.blogspot.com/2013/05/what-i-mean-… which informed me I was not alone in my feelings that the term Sex+ had multiple different contexts in which to view it as.

Cliff pointed out the meaning has varied from "not viewing sex as inherently evil" to "insisting that everyone should have tons of orgasms and it'll solve all their problems." He then further defined how he felt. I thought this was a good idea and I would attempt to do the same.

The following is what Sex+ means to me:

1. Freedom for people to live the way they want to.
No one should be told or made to feel negatively because of their sexual orientation and how they live their lives. The freedoms should be equal among all families and be it a M/F, F/F, M/M, triad or whatever other family dynamic consenting adult decide to live by.

2. I think everyone should be able to explore their sexuality free of judgement or fear of being placed into a specific negative label.
I think all labels are inherently negative and are developed to divide us, not gather people together. Negativity and fear stunt or growth and evolution as a society; and passes the ignorance and stigma to the next generation.

3. Just because the title is Sex+, doesn't mean I am forcing a person to do anything but accept the fact there are differences among all of us.
This is a good thing. Our differences are what makes us all individuals. If we were all the same, I feel we would be real boring species. We identify ourselves by our differences and accept them.

4. The foundation of Sex+ should be education.
The statement is knowledge is power, but you do not stop learning until the day you die. Every day there is something new learn something new about sex. Exploration is a good thing. Share experiences as some people are scared and curious about things. Be willing to teach. You might not be the "Expert of all experts" but you can provide knowledge in-which to stop the spreading of fear.

5. Sex+ is not just about having a physical orgasm, it should be about achieving the pleasures you seek.
Yes sex is good, but Cliff stated not all people can have a physical orgasm, but they can experience pleasure. We all strive to hit that transcendent moment, the endorphin rush. To "get off" on providing that pleasure; teaching someone something new (toy or move) and they come back and thank you profusely.

6. Sex+ is doing what makes you and your partner happy.
Share your joy with others or even in the confines of your house. Do what makes you happy but be safe (That goes back to #4).

7. Lastly, There is nothing wrong with being happy.

So go make yourself happy knowing I will always fight for your right to do so.

Eric

The Glory of

Polyamory

Polyamory is the practice, desire, and acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved.  It is an incredibly dynamic relationship where trust is the cornerstone in which to build on.

The term Polyamory is derived from the combination of the Greek word “poly” which translates to the word many and the Latin word “amor” which translates to love.  A Polyamorous relationship is one where ethics, honesty, and transparency are all crucial characteristics.

This is not a relationship of hiding or sneaking around, but open communication is used to share the energies of love, respect and sexual urges either together and sharing and siphoning energy levels.

There are many different forms of palymory

Polyfidelity:

A multiple romantic relationships with sexual contact restricted to only specific partners in the group or a group marriage

Ploy-Hierarchal  

 This is where there is an agreement that one partner is given a dominate roll over other of the same sex within the relationship

Triad

Where there are three people within the relationship

Group Marriage:

This also can go as a tribe, but it is when a partnership consisting of four people who are all married to each other

Swinging:

This is a unique and loaded term to use within a poly discussion as most swingers are not always developing a long-term relationship.  But many aspects of tribe and swinging are similar.

Many of the people within a poly relationship define fidelity not as sexual exclusivity but a faithfulness of an agreement made concerning the relationship.

This type of relationship is not for everyone, and unfortunately it has a stigma attached to it by “main stream” as some of the relationships are of people who are the same sex.  But the one good thing about this type of relationship is that you are open willing to experience many different things. 

I for one say, find what you like, and experience it to its fullest and do not let people’s ignorance scare you off from something you think could make you happy.

What Is

Casual Sex???

There are questions out there of what is casual sex.  There have been many people I hear talking believe this choice in lifestyle to be to be dangerous and downfall of society.  I want to flip this argument to show how it can be a healthy choice if partners choose to do safely.

There are many of my friends (me included) who met and married their spouse whose relationship started as a casual sex encounter.  I met my wife on a local swinger’s website.  She was a single girl and I was a single guy.  Yes I am the legendary unicorn slayer.

Casual sex has gone by many different names,

One Night Stands…

Friends with Benefits…

Fuck Buddies…

Swing Partners… 

The list can be endless.

With life as it is now days with focusing on establishing work careers, the personal physical aspects of people’s lives are being lost or pushed to the side or ignored unlike previous generations have not experienced.  It leaves people now days feeling a little empty and deprived of physical connection.

Having casual sex is not having “heartless” sex, as a self proclaimed “reformed tramp” stated in a CNN article.  Casual sex allows a person fill the basic need for human connection and sexual release.  It should not be used to completely fill all the voids a person might be experiencing in their lives.

Casual sex also allows you to take a friendship to another level.  It allows the both of you, as long as both people agree, to expand the friendship and relieve sexual tensions which might be building in a friendship or other type of interpersonal relationship.

This type of relationship everyone is searching for but it could provide busy professionals an ability to meet and connect on a carnal level a new type of relationship.  Never know a casual encounter can lead to a lifetime relationship.

The Glory of

Swinging

In recent years I have seen an increased interest in the swinging lifestyle.  There interest seems to stem from its placement in cultural TV shows.  A lot of these people do not understand all that is what swinging is all about

Swinging is not all about getting people together to just have sex or fuck, it is a gathering of people who share an openness and willing to share with others.  What it is not, is a way for civilians to act out their pornographic fantasies. 

 

I tell people it is no different than a chess or sewing club.  It is a place where everyone can get together to talk share and enjoy each other’s company in an open environment free of social judgments.

The parties that swingers throw are no different than any other evening party or night out at a club.  It is not just a bunch of naked people, unless that is the theme of the party.   Usually themes are the same in vanilla clubs like

schoolgirl party, ladies night etc.

The difference between swing and vanillia parties starts there.  There is a different energy you feel building up; an anticipation energy which fills the room.  

All of this you add the smell of the pheromones and sexy talk amplifies the energy level.  It leaves the feeling that at anytime it can all erupt.

Another thing I tell people often is this is all about pleasure, and the focus of the pleasure should be on the woman.  It is no different than a regular club, as remember the woman could always find another swinging dick in the room. 

She may want you, but if you treat her or her spouse with no respect, she will more than likely move on to find a guy who will

Again most swing parties are NOT orgies, (again unless it is the theme or what the woman wants) but a way to play and experience pleasure and fulfill their desires.

The second biggest thing is, remember to talk to your partner, figure out how far eash are willing the other to go, and respect your own partner's desires. 

Go and have fun but always be safe