For the past few months it seems the term Sex-Positive (Sex+) has been used by a large many different groups of people to mean many different thing. It wasn't until today what I was informed for an article written by a Cliff Pervocracy ([http://pervocracy.blogspot.com/2013/05/what-i-mean-… which informed me I was not alone in my feelings that the term Sex+ had multiple different contexts in which to view it as.
Cliff pointed out the meaning has varied from "not viewing sex as inherently evil" to "insisting that everyone should have tons of orgasms and it'll solve all their problems." He then further defined how he felt. I thought this was a good idea and I would attempt to do the same.
The following is what Sex+ means to me:
1. Freedom for people to live the way they want to.
No one should be told or made to feel negatively because of their sexual orientation and how they live their lives. The freedoms should be equal among all families and be it a M/F, F/F, M/M, triad or whatever other family dynamic consenting adult decide to live by.
No one should be told or made to feel negatively because of their sexual orientation and how they live their lives. The freedoms should be equal among all families and be it a M/F, F/F, M/M, triad or whatever other family dynamic consenting adult decide to live by.
2. I think everyone should be able to explore their sexuality free of judgement or fear of being placed into a specific negative label.
I think all labels are inherently negative and are developed to divide us, not gather people together. Negativity and fear stunt or growth and evolution as a society; and passes the ignorance and stigma to the next generation.
I think all labels are inherently negative and are developed to divide us, not gather people together. Negativity and fear stunt or growth and evolution as a society; and passes the ignorance and stigma to the next generation.
3. Just because the title is Sex+, doesn't mean I am forcing a person to do anything but accept the fact there are differences among all of us.
This is a good thing. Our differences are what makes us all individuals. If we were all the same, I feel we would be real boring species. We identify ourselves by our differences and accept them.
This is a good thing. Our differences are what makes us all individuals. If we were all the same, I feel we would be real boring species. We identify ourselves by our differences and accept them.
4. The foundation of Sex+ should be education.
The statement is knowledge is power, but you do not stop learning until the day you die. Every day there is something new learn something new about sex. Exploration is a good thing. Share experiences as some people are scared and curious about things. Be willing to teach. You might not be the "Expert of all experts" but you can provide knowledge in-which to stop the spreading of fear.
The statement is knowledge is power, but you do not stop learning until the day you die. Every day there is something new learn something new about sex. Exploration is a good thing. Share experiences as some people are scared and curious about things. Be willing to teach. You might not be the "Expert of all experts" but you can provide knowledge in-which to stop the spreading of fear.
5. Sex+ is not just about having a physical orgasm, it should be about achieving the pleasures you seek.
Yes sex is good, but Cliff stated not all people can have a physical orgasm, but they can experience pleasure. We all strive to hit that transcendent moment, the endorphin rush. To "get off" on providing that pleasure; teaching someone something new (toy or move) and they come back and thank you profusely.
Yes sex is good, but Cliff stated not all people can have a physical orgasm, but they can experience pleasure. We all strive to hit that transcendent moment, the endorphin rush. To "get off" on providing that pleasure; teaching someone something new (toy or move) and they come back and thank you profusely.
6. Sex+ is doing what makes you and your partner happy.
Share your joy with others or even in the confines of your house. Do what makes you happy but be safe (That goes back to #4).
Share your joy with others or even in the confines of your house. Do what makes you happy but be safe (That goes back to #4).
7. Lastly, There is nothing wrong with being happy.
So go make yourself happy knowing I will always fight for your right to do so.
Eric
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