The Glory of

Polyamory

Polyamory is the practice, desire, and acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved.  It is an incredibly dynamic relationship where trust is the cornerstone in which to build on.

The term Polyamory is derived from the combination of the Greek word “poly” which translates to the word many and the Latin word “amor” which translates to love.  A Polyamorous relationship is one where ethics, honesty, and transparency are all crucial characteristics.

This is not a relationship of hiding or sneaking around, but open communication is used to share the energies of love, respect and sexual urges either together and sharing and siphoning energy levels.

There are many different forms of palymory

Polyfidelity:

A multiple romantic relationships with sexual contact restricted to only specific partners in the group or a group marriage

Ploy-Hierarchal  

 This is where there is an agreement that one partner is given a dominate roll over other of the same sex within the relationship

Triad

Where there are three people within the relationship

Group Marriage:

This also can go as a tribe, but it is when a partnership consisting of four people who are all married to each other

Swinging:

This is a unique and loaded term to use within a poly discussion as most swingers are not always developing a long-term relationship.  But many aspects of tribe and swinging are similar.

Many of the people within a poly relationship define fidelity not as sexual exclusivity but a faithfulness of an agreement made concerning the relationship.

This type of relationship is not for everyone, and unfortunately it has a stigma attached to it by “main stream” as some of the relationships are of people who are the same sex.  But the one good thing about this type of relationship is that you are open willing to experience many different things. 

I for one say, find what you like, and experience it to its fullest and do not let people’s ignorance scare you off from something you think could make you happy.

What Is

Casual Sex???

There are questions out there of what is casual sex.  There have been many people I hear talking believe this choice in lifestyle to be to be dangerous and downfall of society.  I want to flip this argument to show how it can be a healthy choice if partners choose to do safely.

There are many of my friends (me included) who met and married their spouse whose relationship started as a casual sex encounter.  I met my wife on a local swinger’s website.  She was a single girl and I was a single guy.  Yes I am the legendary unicorn slayer.

Casual sex has gone by many different names,

One Night Stands…

Friends with Benefits…

Fuck Buddies…

Swing Partners… 

The list can be endless.

With life as it is now days with focusing on establishing work careers, the personal physical aspects of people’s lives are being lost or pushed to the side or ignored unlike previous generations have not experienced.  It leaves people now days feeling a little empty and deprived of physical connection.

Having casual sex is not having “heartless” sex, as a self proclaimed “reformed tramp” stated in a CNN article.  Casual sex allows a person fill the basic need for human connection and sexual release.  It should not be used to completely fill all the voids a person might be experiencing in their lives.

Casual sex also allows you to take a friendship to another level.  It allows the both of you, as long as both people agree, to expand the friendship and relieve sexual tensions which might be building in a friendship or other type of interpersonal relationship.

This type of relationship everyone is searching for but it could provide busy professionals an ability to meet and connect on a carnal level a new type of relationship.  Never know a casual encounter can lead to a lifetime relationship.

The Glory of

Swinging

In recent years I have seen an increased interest in the swinging lifestyle.  There interest seems to stem from its placement in cultural TV shows.  A lot of these people do not understand all that is what swinging is all about

Swinging is not all about getting people together to just have sex or fuck, it is a gathering of people who share an openness and willing to share with others.  What it is not, is a way for civilians to act out their pornographic fantasies. 

 

I tell people it is no different than a chess or sewing club.  It is a place where everyone can get together to talk share and enjoy each other’s company in an open environment free of social judgments.

The parties that swingers throw are no different than any other evening party or night out at a club.  It is not just a bunch of naked people, unless that is the theme of the party.   Usually themes are the same in vanilla clubs like

schoolgirl party, ladies night etc.

The difference between swing and vanillia parties starts there.  There is a different energy you feel building up; an anticipation energy which fills the room.  

All of this you add the smell of the pheromones and sexy talk amplifies the energy level.  It leaves the feeling that at anytime it can all erupt.

Another thing I tell people often is this is all about pleasure, and the focus of the pleasure should be on the woman.  It is no different than a regular club, as remember the woman could always find another swinging dick in the room. 

She may want you, but if you treat her or her spouse with no respect, she will more than likely move on to find a guy who will

Again most swing parties are NOT orgies, (again unless it is the theme or what the woman wants) but a way to play and experience pleasure and fulfill their desires.

The second biggest thing is, remember to talk to your partner, figure out how far eash are willing the other to go, and respect your own partner's desires. 

Go and have fun but always be safe